There are more than 56% of couples trying to work through infidelity. How easy is it? It's not! Especially in a military lifestyle when there's a code of conduct to stand by that soldiers simply don't follow. Yet we in the U.S.A look up to these folks and they are doing it to each other. Respect and loyalty seems to go out the door once you close doors and no one knows what is going on behind closed doors. It takes two very devoted people to engage in holding on instead of simply finding the quick way out. Divorces are rated at 2.4 million a year ending in a 50% rate. Tragically we take the easy way to blame the marriage and/or the partner. What we fail to see is our own selfish ways that affect the people we love. The ugly truth is one must live remaining with a deep seeded root of a hole in their spiritual character of immorality since birth. Your very own insecurities are what drives you outside the marriage, not your partner and only until you can face it. You will continue to leak as big as an ocean and drown in your own sorrow, because you will never know who you are and who you love. Until you can work on your flaws and the love within, the marriage is an unfortunate dissolution from the start.
Whether you're a man or a woman always seeking the thrill of no commitment and enjoy jumping in some other person's horse and carriage and then turn it in at the end of the day, that ride is going to cost you. You're in your own denial of loving abuse within your own hole in your character lies deeper. You're so afraid of love that you run from it or run into the arms of a married person sadder when you're a teenager starting a life this way. You're life will only be turmoil and you will reap what you sew, unless you make changes quick to care about who you are and what you deserve and others you hurt. The wife will always be the wife, you will always be the (mistress = mis-stess) you will not miss out on the stress, you will always be the miss in stress. Have value for whom you are, because you will be nothing more but just another one night stand to add to your collection.
The military takes care of their families, so much! I am not quite sure of this honor. However, if you're undergoing a dishonorable affair or are the victim or are the intruder there is much to think about before such acts. Many things will change your life forever: The one nightstand may not be worth it! Trust me! If you both military personal the pay of is check mate! I don't mean you'll be checking on your affair. You will pay a very big price for your dishonesty, disloyalty and/or intrusion. It can cost you up to one year in jail, dishonorable discharge and all monies and a bad rapport for your future career. You made your bed you will lie in it as you did lie in it! Don't in turn: Blame your spouse for turning you in you new the consequences when you signed your life to the military and when you signed your vows. If you weren't going to honor any of it, then you shouldn't take on more than you can handle.
Adultery affects everyone tragically but more so, when a spouse is taking care of things at home with children and the other spouse is taking care of someone else instead of his/her family. If you love yourself you will do whatever it takes to find everything in your marriage. There will be no room for a leaky ocean because you have healed that hole: that only you can heal. Therefore, so you don't end up being that 50% in divorce: don't marry until you truly love yourself first!
This is the biggest problem in marriages today and yesterday!
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